To you, feeling worthless, alone and in pain. I wrote this especially for you. That’s right for YOU. Some will say I do not have the right to ask you to stay, I say I don’t have the right to be here and not try.
I know you will not want to think it, but you are not alone. You are not the only person googling this question right now or thinking it. Even, if it is the middle of the night. I don’t want you to find the answer you seek. I would love you to choose another path. There is always another way.
I know you are exhausted, tired, so tired, you’re shaking inside or numb, eating too much or not eating hardly at all, you jump at things that are not there, scared of everything or not scared at all, crying or run out of tears. You’ve locked up how you feel for so long because you don’t want others to know. The pressure of money, responsibility is too much or too little, you ask yourself ‘who can help me?’ while not always willing to find out.
I understand how you feel. I’ve been there and helped people feeling the same, although I am not you. They are not you. You are unique, you are you. You are a son, a daughter, a mother a father, an auntie, an uncle, a friend.
Whilst it may not seem like it right now there are reasons to stay alive. If you really search for them and silence the inner voice that is telling you otherwise. Your inner voice is lying to you, big time and you have lost the internal coach that brings you back around. That voice that is telling you to worry about what others think and that the hurtful things people say matter –
They Don’t! It only matters what you think of yourself. That is what you want to lose, that inner voice, not your life! So, let me and others be the coach for you for a minute and read this.
A few months ago, I asked people what they would say to some one that was struggling here is what they said…..
“Remember - it’s a bad day, not a bad life” ❤️ - Ffion
“Your life is a tug of war between the fear holding you back and the faith beckoning you forward. Never forget you have the power to choose the victor.” – Simon
“No matter what size the concern may be please try 1 tiny step to light the light again in your life support is there please ask Peace n bless u all you can shine n sing again” xxx - Eileen
“Next time you think about beautiful things, don't forget to count yourself” – Natalie
“You are the most important person in your life, look after yourself” - Hayley
“Always make yourself happy, before trying to make others happy!! Your happiness is the most important!!” - Tom
“Our lives have value, meaning and purpose, we just sometimes need help to find it - it's OK to ask ! Just listen please?!” – Elen
“There is a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in”.- John
“You drown not by falling into a river, but by staying submerged in it”. ❤️ – Bobbie
“If there is a roof over your head and someone to cuddle at night you already have more than most” x – Danielle
“Speak kindly to yourself, you’re always listening.” – Zoe
“Fear and ego are those animals you lived with at Uni. Loud, obnoxious, and they make a fucking mess. Move out. Faith and empathy are much better flatmates.” – Rawiri
“Are your thoughts controlling you or are you controlling your thoughts?” – Michael
“Saying no is OK” – Ali
“Try to focus on what you can control - take action there. Wishing you courage!” – Alix
“Talking is healing for both parties, the teller and listener” – Steve
“Keep pushing. Even when you hit rock bottom - the only way is up” 💛- Kesha
“You are a diamond - shine bright!” - Melissa
“Although it may not seem like it, you are not alone. If you are not able to ask for help, you should search and listen to the stories of others. All it takes is for one thing to resonate with you, and good changes will follow” - Harry
“There are always people willing to listen if you are willing to talk, don’t be afraid to ask for help” – John
“When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting and less scary” – Leanne
“You carry so much love in your heart give some to yourself never feel guilty about doing what is best for you” – Jemma
"The relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every relationship you have with others" – Kim
“Everything will be ok in the end. If it’s not ok, it’s not the end.” – Sadie
“Give yourself a tight “magic hug” filled with abundance of love, kindness and appreciation!” - Neha
“Life will get on the right track, it "ALWAYS" does.” – Kuldeep
"Always remember you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think and more loved than you'll ever know" - Christopher Robin – Shared by Nikki
“You can’t fill someone else’s cup until you fill yours first. Make yourself a priority” – Melanie
“A flower does not think about competing with the flower next to it, it just blooms. Be you.” X – Hayley
“The way you interpret your feelings creates the suffering not the feelings themselves. Emotions come but they also go.” – Elleshia
“Be kind to judgemental people, they are judging themselves the most and that isn’t easy.” – Julie
“Acceptance is a willingly to let the things you can’t control to just be” – Lesley
“The more you learn, the less you fear.” – Sam
“In Japan, broken objects are often repaired with gold, Kintsugi. The flaw is seen as a unique piece of the object’s history, which adds to its beauty. Consider this when you feel broken.” – Melissa
“It can't rain all the time... nothing lasts forever” – Taz
“Today is a new day.” - Anna
“Remember it’s ok to not be able to tell someone how you are feeling if YOU don’t know yourself. Self-love all the way ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️” - Lucy
“3 G's to happiness.... give, gratitude, grow x What's your Wellbeing Toolkit - the 4 main things that support you?....Stick with them! Focus on the things you enjoy, the rest can wait” xx – Liz
“Believe in yourself, you’re stronger than you think!” – Lucy
“If you see someone without a smile give them one of yours”. – Ruth
“Sometimes you need to stop sssh, listen to your own heartbeat. Keep going while you hear that.” – Lisa
“Remember a chirp a day, keeps the heartbreak away! Stand up, stand proud, speak up, speak loud - we are the listening crowd” – Julian
“There is ALWAYS someone who cares and there is ALWAYS better days to come so don't give up” – Andrea
“Always prepare for the worst, just don't dwell on it “– Phil
“Life is an unpredictable journey. Speak to someone and follow the road to happiness” – Sonia
“Remember you are loved, and you are strong” – Cyndy
“Live each day as it it is your last. tomorrow isn’t guaranteed. Be happy” :) :) xx – Katherine
“A new broom sweeps clean” - Karen
“When you were born you were eating drinking and loved so don’t waste life, live life” – Steve
“Life is precious so are you!” – Victoria
“Live today, don't worry about tomorrow” – Stephen
Over 50 messages of support from strangers that wrote this for YOU! To give you hope and faith that things can get better. You are not alone. Save this. Read this whenever you want to. We want you to live, to breathe, to get better!
There are so many stories of people that have been where you are have come out the other side.
Now, let’s get you talking to another human. Please call the Samaritans 24 hours – 116 123
The sooner you start to talk and keep talking it will get better. Just because it didn’t work last time doesn’t mean it won’t work this time.
I wish love and peace to you in this difficult time. Everyone needs someone to believe in them and you may find it difficult to believe but I believe in YOU. I believe in the potential of people to change and move forward. You can do it! Just start to believe in yourself.
This post was written with the title in mind because 74,000 google 'How to kill Yourself' on a monthly basis that's nearly a million a year. A collective of us decided to use the keywords and add messages of hope inside. With the prayer that if someone finds this in a dark place they won't get the answer that they wanted they will get a message that hopes to redirect to get help or live another day. We may not have the right to ask them to stay, I say we don't have the right to be here and not try. Suicide Prevention Day 2020.